Aunt Fancy

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  Got Accosted by 2 JW Women While Pumping Gas Yesterday - Weird

  by flipper in

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  absolutely weird.

  minding my own business while pumping gas - this 60 year old short jw lady with fluffed bun styled 60's hair and her 30 year old attractive 5 ' 10 inch jw lady partner came straight up to me as i'm pumping.

  they picked the wrong hombre .

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  Aunt Fancy

  That was a good one Flipper. I know the child abuse scandal really upset me so hopefully they will go home and think about it and do some googling.
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  Quick Poll - How many are...

  by mrhhome in

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  how many here are (a) ex-jw, (b) non-jw with jw relatives or spouses, (c) inactive jw, or (d) active jw who stay in for your own reasons?.

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  Aunt Fancy

  We faded 13 months ago and we feel we are ex-JW's never to return. We did a very sudden fade after the DC never to set foot in the KH again.
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  I was not only just not invited, I was sent an uninvited letter..seriously?!

  by freedom2bme in

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  here is my introduction letter.

  my jw and biological sister is getting married this weekend and 3 weeks ago i received a letter actually uninviting me to this showy display.

  i was stunned to say the least.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Welcome, I am sorry to hear you are going through a rough patch. There are many on this board that have been in-invited from an event too. I don't have much to add but JW's are usually very phobic about gays and for that reason her husband to be may be the problem. If he is a NPG he probably is very uncomfortable around you because you can see what he is doing. For me personally I would talk privately with your sister and let her know how much this has hurt you. Remind her of when her husband died and how you gave up your life to help her. Sometimes people need to be reminded of things from the past. They get so caught up in the JW dogma. Also, sometimes we are afraid to tell a loved one our feelings and so it goes unsaid and there are hurt feelings when the situation could have been corrected with a discussion. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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  If You Were A Bro(tm) Did You Enjoy The Prestiage Of Giving A Talk? Do You Miss It?

  by LoisLane looking for Superman in

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  i was a sister(tm).

  i was only allowed to give talks to my householder.. you brother's(tm), all eyes were on you.. what was that like?.

  did you enjoy it?.

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  Aunt Fancy

  I always hated giving talks and finally I would get a terrible explosive headache before giving them so I stopped years ago. I didn't mind being a householder though. My husband on the other hand enjoyed it and did a lot of research to make it interesting, he was an excellent speaker.

  He was a born in and the very first time he gave a talk he was around 8-10 years old and the talk was about masterbation. He kept telling his mom that he didn't want to do it but she wouldn't give in. When he gave the talk it fell apart because he was so embarrassed. It just shows you how weird some of these brothers are. Why in the world would you give a child a talk about masterbation. It is bad enough that they give sex talks to an audience full of children but then to assign it to a child is down right stupid.
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  My Mom Is Finally Seeing The Light!

  by minimus in

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  i am very happy that my dear old mom is finally seeing the truth about the "truth".

  what hit her like a ton of bricks is the latest wt.

  study article that exalts the governing body and pretty much negates everything the bible students and russell, the founder of the watchtower, ever said was truth!.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Great news! It gives so many the hope that they can reach their loved ones too.
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  Audio of Candace Conti and Bill Bowen at the RNA 2013 conference

  by cedars in

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  the audio file is 1 hour 28 minutes in total.

  the first hour is the panel speaking, and the remaining 28 minutes is the questions from journalists.. here is the link.... http://192.185.44.220/media/13austin/podcast/06%20precon_%20the%20continuing%20story%20pf%20clergy%20abuse%20beyond%20roman%20catholics.mp3.

  candace conti in particular did an amazing job, and the comments from the journalists show how appreciative they were of her bravery in speaking out on such a personal issue.. bill was also informative with some of the firsthand accounts he was able to give.. .

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  Aunt Fancy

  Wow! This was excellent, I enjoyed the whole piece. Candice and Bill did an excellent job and the others were very interesting too.
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  Is Life Good For You At This Time?

  by minimus in

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  since you are learning or have learned the truth about the truth, how are you handling things?

  are you happy, depressed, confused?

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  Aunt Fancy

  Good topic Minimus, I can honestly say after a year of fading and some therapy my husband and I are very happy. We both still have periods when it hits us and we recall different things but it isn't even an everyday topic like it was in the beginning. My family were never JW's and they are so happy we are out so we have received excellent support. His family is a small family with just his mom and two nieces and his Mom is not happy but she still talks to him but she will never bring up religion because my husband told her if she does then he has the right to tell her how he feels but, she will never tell him she loves him when they hang up the phone now which hurts my husband.

  i really think the key is to read what you can on the subject, therapy and we also have read some good self help books because it helps to replace all of the negative talk you hear while you are in. You have to retrain your mind with healthy thinking because what we were taught was not healthy at all.

  We have done a lot of traveling in the last 13 months which has been healthy for us. I joined a bowling team to meet some women and my husband joined a meet up group where they play guitars and he has met some nice professional guys. I still get a little lonely but I always have my husband and family. I have posted this before but my husband of 33 years came out with me So I feel so fortunate.

  I am one of the fortunate ones that hasn't dealt with the shunning from family members although I have lost my "friends" which does hurt at times but they were never really my true friends. I have also reconnected with old friends from my previous life before the JW's.

  So, all in all life is very good!
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  Terry's book: I WEPT BY THE RIVERS OF BABYLON

  by tec in

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  i just finished reading this book, by our terry, and i thorougly enjoyed it.

  terry has an amazing gift for words and expression - as most of you already know - and he lured me in from the very start.

  reading this book is an actual experience... and i don't want to say much more than that, because i don't want to color your experience as you read for yourself.. .

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  Aunt Fancy

  I usually buy books on my Kindle but for yours I chose the paperback because I think my husband will enjoy reading it. He was a born in and would have ended up in the war but his draft number was over 300. He isn't on this site but I copy posts to him that I think he will enjoy and there have been many Terry posts that he has read. I really hope your book is a huge success. By the way that is funny about the book written by an ex witness and they were passing it around to find the lies. I read that book within the past year and it was funny because it was published so many years ago a lot of the WT isms have changed. You would never hear of a congregation passing an Ex-JW book around now with their paranoia about the apostates. Best Wishes to you!
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  I made a huge mistake

  by KariOtt in

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  its been a tough 6 months for my jw hubby and myself.

  next saturday is our anniversary.

  i wasn't sure we would make it with the turbulance of the last 6 months.

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  Aunt Fancy

  You didn't make a mistake, you made sure he had a wonderful evening. If he doesn't want you to pick out the gift then he should go out and buy something you would would love. I may be wrong about this but I think it is probably more common for JW's to not buy gifts because they are not use to celebrating anything. I knew of couples that didn't even give each other a card. Because I was brought up in the "world" I had to give up so many fun things so anniversarys were special to us. Don't allow him to spoil your night and if you love the cross I would keep it and wear it with pride. Maybe it will teach him to get the next one himself.
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  My Review for Terry's new book, "I Wept by the Rivers of Babylon, A Prisoner of Conscience in a Time of War"

  by AndersonsInfo in

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  grappling with conscience .

  a must read, i wept by the rivers of babylon,a prisoner of conscience in a time of war, is an important self-portrait of a naive young man, terry walstrom, who in 1967 thought he was obeying his conscience when he refused to take up arms and kill.

  inasmuch as he was a conscientious objector, walstrom could have availed himself of noncombatant service in the military, but he was opposed to that arrangement.

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  Aunt Fancy

  I just purchased it and looking forward to reading it.